Tuesday, December 14, 2021

Christmas Letter 2021

 

“Look with favour upon a bold beginning.”

Virgil (70 BC - 19 BC)

This year is unlike anything we’ve experienced, and I’ve pondered the best way to write the 2021 Christmas letter without making it too long. I thought about releasing the stories in 12 chapters, like the 12 days of Christmas because there’s just SO much to tell!” There’s just SO much to tell! Let’s start with the end… we’re very happy living in Tampa, Florida. Boom! Just like that, we went from Oregon to Florida. Well, it wasn’t “just like that,” but we are very happy. Let’s start with some of our shorter stories before diving into the whirlwind of change.

Cheryl's recovery

If you read the last Christmas letter, you’ll recall that Cheryl suffered a traumatic head injury that left her unable to drive, along with some other challenges. You’ll be happy to hear she’s doing amazingly well! She had incredible improvement through acupuncture early in the year. While we were driving across the country, she started experiencing healing with her vision! When we made it to Tampa, she experienced sudden improvements that actually happened during church worship service! It’s a fantastic testimony, which was foretold by a friend in June. There are only a few things she’s still working through, but the improvements are nothing short of a miracle.


Home Group

Before leaving Oregon, we finished hosting nearly a full year of a home church fellowship group. We missed only one of the weekly gatherings across an entire year! Big deal? Yes, I believe it was a very big deal. With the state closing everything down, churches going virtual, and the crazy yo-yo policies around controlling citizens to lessen the curve of the Coronavirus, we continually held a closed-group of folks that very quickly became family. Even though we’re now in Florida, the group successfully transferred to others hosts and continues even to this day.
 

Questions and More Questions 

We knew in our hearts that we were supposed to leave Oregon at some point. So we prayed and asked and prayed and asked, and then it happened. We asked and God said “Go”. So, of course, we asked again… and again… and again. Tampa was very clearly the answer. You know the saying, if you do something over and over expecting different results, that’s insanity. Neither of us enjoy the idea of being labeled as insane, so we finally said okay. The fun part was when we asked Sophia to see if God told her anything about something called “Tampa”. We knew for a fact she didn’t have a clue what Tampa was. Within 30-seconds of her silent inquiry, she rattled off alarming specifics about Tampa that she would have NEVER known! This included the buildings, airport, lizards, beaches, and hay. We were a bit confused by the fields of hay, but it turns out there’s a significant agricultural region about 20 minutes north.
 
Crazy, huh? We knew we were supposed to move out of Oregon at some point, but after repeatedly asking God for direction and opportunity, it didn’t start to take shape until June, 2021. 


SOLD!

We lived in our house in Salem for six years and one month. We updated most of the house, and even created a master bathroom suite some noted as “sexy,” an assessment I wholeheartedly agree with! Super sexy, really! While other homes in the area had bid wars, ours was SO sexy that there was a delay before the bidders stepped up to play. Before we knew it, everything fell into line and I gave a 3.25-week notice at my job. The good thing about selling at the top of a market is that debt can be erased in a blink of an eye, especially after working our tails off. Good reward, I’d say!


Scooby, the Alpha Male

In July, Sophia and I jumped in my car and went on a three-day, two-night camping adventure into southern and western Oregon. We weren’t able to get passes into the Oregon Caves, because the government restricted tours to very small groups. Instead, we found ourselves at a Great Cats World Park. We toured the park with the group, guided by a knowledgeable hostess, and everything was fine until Scooby came to meet us. Scooby is a massive male white tiger that is the alpha of his world. Scooby noticed that I stood taller than the rest of the group, and immediately viewed me as a threat to his empire. He lowered his head, opened his massive jaws and announced a growl that made my soul shiver! The guide, alarmed at Scooby’s aggression, turned to find me nearby. “Sir, you need to back away a few steps,” she said with concerned authority. I certainly did not hesitate, and Scooby retained his rightful place as king of the park.


We made it to the Oregon Coast for a windy and cold night in a campground, and the next day made it to a sandy beach where we said goodbye to the Pacific Ocean as the ice-cold surf splashed around our ankles. We called out in shock as the water washed ashore, and promptly went back to the car to warm up. We made a video of our reaction as the surf assaulted our nerve endings so we wouldn’t forget to appreciate the warmth of the Florida waters. 



Pack 'em up, move 'em out

The end of July brought the voluntary end of my job and the end of our time in Salem, Oregon. After several unpleasant attempts to find a moving company to do the 3,096 mile trek for us, we found a 26-foot Budget rental truck with a trailer to haul the Mini Cooper. I sold my car, used professional and voluntary help to pack the truck like a Tetris Masterclass, and launched away from our home of six years onto the nation’s wild roads.


The long haul - My wallet out the window in Wyoming, a true tale.

The drive started off easy enough. The truck had a governor that held it to 63 MPH, which is similar to the governor of Oregon (think about it). That derailed my scheduled travel, especially when the truck couldn’t do much more than 40 MPH uphill. In the most rigorous mountain passes, we could only hope to reach a stunning 35 MPH. When the heavy-haul trucks blasted past us going uphill with a strong headwind, we knew our travel schedule faced a serious setback. We anticipated six days of travel… but as you’ll see in a moment, that was derailed even further. 




August in Wyoming isn’t terribly hot, so we danced between open windows and air conditioning. We stayed the night at Little America, Wyoming, and when we started off the next morning, I unwisely placed my wallet against the wing-window for “safe keeping.” I hung my water bottle from the lever of that same wing-window for ease of access, but the bottle blocked my view of the wallet… which flew out the window when I opened it. Yes, I lost my wallet in Wyoming, ten miles east of Little America. It has all the makings of a country song! You might imagine the shock and grieving process that I had to work through before I got my wits about me, thanks to Cheryl’s logic and bank cards. So, with no license or bank access, we managed to cancel everything and determined that the wallet and all the precious contents would promptly and repeatedly get ground into the asphalt by the non-stop truck traffic, then baked in the sun and eventually face the deep freeze of Wyoming winters. If you ever get to cruise past Little America, Wyoming, you’ll note the absence of pretty much everything. Seriously, there’s nothing but wide, open plains of sagebrush and dirt… and now there’s a wallet. 

The great breakdown 

We continued our trek across the great plains, into corn country, and as we passed into Missouri, an alert appeared on the dashboard. A strange, orange upside-down triangle, to be exact. Thanks to technology, our quick-fingered research about International Truck warning indicators said the transmission was failing and it could be a serious issue. We found ourselves at a tiny gas station on the outskirts of a place called St. Joseph, Missouri with a broken truck, waiting for a return call from Budget Truck roadside assistance. After a couple hours, they said they would have us stay at a Holiday Inn Express in St. Joseph, and there was actually a repair shop in town that could help. I don’t recall them saying to NOT drive to the hotel, so I did just that. They really should be specific about these things. About 20 minutes later, we found the hotel we’d call home for the next three nights. The truck and all our belongings were towed to a repair shop, leaving the Mini Cooper on the trailer in the hotel parking lot. 


Budget didn’t do well for us in this circumstance, although the people on the phone were very nice. The authorization needed by the repair shop was delayed. The diagnosis was delayed as well, which ultimately concluded that the transmission was completely dry and needed to be replaced. Budget said they would find us a replacement truck when one came available within 200 miles of our location. Sadly, the only major city within that range was Kansas City, which didn’t have any trucks. To our dismay, Budget Truck Rental said it could be days or weeks to find us a replacement, and to just enjoy our stay at the hotel, which they would reimburse us for eventually. In light of this unfortunate position we found ourselves in, we were together, healthy, happy, and near restaurants and a shopping center.

 

We faced a time crunch to get Sophia to a mandatory in-person orientation for her new school, though. We needed a solution and Budget Rental wasn’t willing to go outside of their 200-mile policy for us. So, we came up with an answer: Cheryl and Sophia would fly from Kansas City to Tampa just in time to make the school orientation, and I would get our stuff moved into a local storage, abandon Budget completely and drive the Mini the rest of the way. I explained this to Budget representatives, and as remarkable as it sounds, they found a truck for us within a couple hours.

 

Cheryl and Sophia made it to Tampa on time for school, and to tour the home we made an offer on. Oh, did I forget to mention we were trying to buy a home this entire time? Yes indeed! Our real estate agent was actively giving us video tours of prospective homes as we made our way across the US, and while we were in St. Joseph struggling with our abandonment issues, we had our offer accepted and home inspections were underway. More about that later… back to our story.


Busted leftovers

The new truck arrived and was beautiful--with low miles--promising smooth roads ahead. I waited patiently as a local company swapped our belongings from the old truck to the new truck. They parked the back ends of the trucks together and went to work shuffling things around. The swap crew, sadly, wasn't skilled at the art of Tetris like the guys that packed our truck in Oregon.

 

Finally, they asked me to look at the collection of furniture that didn’t make it into the new truck. “These won’t fit,” their leader stated. “What do you want to do?” The darkening sky threatened rain and lightning was a strange reflection of my mood at that moment. I told them to pull everything out and start over, which didn’t sit well with their leader. He promptly called his boss and exploded into a tirade of expletives that should have gotten him fired on the spot. Somehow, the boss got him to agree to remove and repack some of the items, but not all. On a positive note, their second attempt was 99% successful, leaving only our ottoman behind with a promise to ship it, which never happened. Unfortunately, they broke apart several pieces of furniture and damaged others just to make it all fit. We found out later that they set aside all our packing blankets and bubble wrap instead of using it as it had been originally. A lot of our belongings were damaged or outright destroyed by these guys. Even after all that, I was able to get a few hours on the road in a nice new truck that actually was capable of freeway speeds. It was like having a renewed burst of wind beneath my wings!


Flying to paradise,  driving through storms 

Cheryl and Sophia flew from Kansas City to Tampa just in time to attend the mandatory meeting at Sophia’s new school and visit the new home just as the final inspections were done. Sophia’s school is a private school with only seven kids in her class. She’d never been exposed to cursive penmanship in Oregon, but in Florida they start before learning to print! She caught on exceptionally fast and enjoys “fancy writing.”

 

While Cheryl and Sophia had a few days in Tampa without me, getting to stay at our friends’ condo within a block from the beautiful beaches of St. Pete’s Beach community, I hit the road with a new truck towing the Mini Cooper on a trailer. The drive started off with perfect weather and easy traffic. As it turns out, the perfect weather was suddenly under assault by an enormous weather front that raged across the plains from my left. I looked into the storm and realized that it held so much water that the chaos immediately following it had a beautiful blue haze swirling in the madness of charcoal clouds. So much water that the clouds were blue! In pure amazement I watched this storm move with incredible ferocity along a path that perfectly intersected with mine. Then it hit.

 

The initial hit from the storm drove the 18-wheeler ahead of me almost off the road! I slowed down and braced for impact. The large Budget truck was pushed hard to the right, but I was prepared after witnessing the big rig in front me get blasted. I slowed to trail the lead truck and could barely see him through the torrential downpour. Within minutes, I felt my left leg soaked with rainwater pouring through the truck windshield. It wasn’t cold, but for a moment I thought I’d lost bladder control, which would have been a whole different story to tell.

 

About an hour passed before the storm pushed by, and I was exhausted from the continual fight to stay on the road and behind the trucker ahead of me. That was storm number one. Before I made it to Florida, I hit three equally ferocious storms. Each time my left leg was entirely soaked.

 

We found out later that the new Budget truck had several holes in the roof of the cargo area. You can imagine the frustration when we found our belongings damaged or destroyed from the swap crew in St. Joseph and further damaged by the water that poured in during the three storms. 


New home, New beginnings

Just as we prepared to leave Oregon, I found myself with a great offer to join a construction material supply company as the National Business Development Director. It started off as the eastern US, but soon transitioned into a full national role. The excitement of working with a company as it expands across the nation is pretty awesome. Unlike my previous job, this one has no glass walls or glass ceilings... Only upward momentum with the nation as my playground.

 

Remember that we were purchasing our next home while we were stuck in St. Joseph? Cheryl and Sophia toured the home at the end of the inspection period, and we got everything finalized in short order. We stayed at an extended stay Marriott for nearly two weeks near Sophia’s school, which worked out amazingly well because I’d accumulated enough travel rewards from my years with my old job that it didn’t cost us a dime! The people were great, and we finally moved into the new house near the end of August. 












The house is rather large with a bonus room so big that Cheryl is teaching ballroom classes during the week! We found the benefit of a massive lanai, which is a metal-framed structure in the back of the house that has screens to keep bugs and creatures out. Well, for the most part, anyhow. Sophia loved chasing and catching the little gecko lizards that frequented the lanai for a while. We fixed most of the little holes they squeezed through, but occasionally one will come hang out with us. She did find out that the little bodies don’t hold up well to human handling, and that when they’re stiff they aren’t sleeping. Now she directs them into a bowl to catch them, and gently releases them into the yard to go live a long, exciting life outside of the lanai. 

About three weeks after we moved in, my Harley finally arrived. The shipping company treated it exceptionally well, although the schedule they promised had no basis in reality. The delivery truck had a lift gate that barely fit the motorcycle’s long wheelbase, and after some very tense moments of jockeying it around on the liftgate, they finally managed to lower it to the ground without dumping it over the side. The tires barely held onto the edges of the platform, and the guy was as stressed as I was but didn’t say anything until after he rolled it off the street.

 As we determined to customize the home, Cheryl jumped on the interior painting almost immediately, and I swapped the overly ornate chandeliers with contemporary styles. I built a TV feature wall with LED lights that looks pretty awesome. We love outdoor living in the lanai and outfitted the space with plenty of seating. In fact, the annual Christmas tree trimming party ended up playing games in the lanai, because that’s what you do in Florida. Cheryl had to settle with a 9-foot tree this year, which is considerably smaller than the 14-foot trees she’d typically select over the last six years. Frankly, I’m pretty happy that we didn’t need a dozen or more adults to move a tree from farm to home. 


As of writing this final part, Sophia just celebrated her 9th birthday at the local community pool with 84-degree temperatures and clear skies! December birthday parties outside by the pool are fantastic! She and her friends swam and played, and ate cake, and swam some more…

Living in Florida has been great! We live on the fourth hole of a golf course, and every pond and small lake throughout the golf course has at least one alligator, some of which are stunningly large! We had very tall sand cranes dance for us outside of our lanai and there’s no shortage of lizards, frogs and beautiful birds of all types. We even have a large hawk that frequents our backyard.

Trigger Time

As you read this next section, some of you might not like my perspective and may outright disagree with what I have to say. You might get triggered, and I might get “canceled”, which I found out is all too easy for some to do. I’m okay if that happens. The fun part of living in America is that we all get a voice. Well, that’s the way it’s supposed to be, anyway. I’m happy to have a conversation with level minds, so feel free to reach out for a health chat. To some, these thoughts might come as a surprise. You see, I’m not one to assert my position without knowing that the persons I’m talking with have a mature consideration for alternate positions. So, let’s see how this works, shall we?

 

We found out rather quickly that the differences between the Oregon and Florida state governments are like night and day. The ongoing, increasing overreach and control grabbed by the Oregon governor at the expense of the citizens in the name of medical necessity is nothing less than a socialist regime jockeying into position with little opposition. The ever-changing rules issued almost weekly by the governor was exhausting! In the middle of all the chaos, the super-majority legislative body announced that the nation's most strict gun control laws were decided on without public input and made law-abiding citizens subject to greater consequences than the worst hard-core drug dealers, pedophiles and felons. Regarding COVID, you weren’t supposed to have more than six people together in one house, but you could stand in line at a big box store with hundreds of people you didn’t know. Children suffered with unprepared online attempts at “education” while the political elites flaunted the fact the rules they set did not apply to them.

 

The rise of Antifa had been downplayed by the media and the government, while I personally watched the black & red clothed thugs assault peaceful assemblies at the state capitol too many times. I worked downtown Portland and walked by the blocks that were torched and trashed by the violent “protests” that were clearly intent on burning down police stations or federal buildings in the name of…. Well, nobody had a clear answer to that, actually. Racial injustice? Government overreach? Police reform? Police abuse? Did anyone get prosecuted for this? For the most part, no. Catch and release until the next night, then simply repeat.

 

It didn’t take long to see that the Oregon governor and state legislative body not only abandoned their duties to represent and protect the people of Oregon, but they worked collectively to impose controls and restrict rights of the citizens. The oppression is real, and when we moved to Florida, the release was almost tangible. Florida’s governor and legislative body serve and protect the rights and freedoms of their citizens, the way America is supposed to be. The people treat each other with a healthy respect for individual choices, like masks or the experimental COVID-19 vaccine & boosters. Interestingly, Florida has the nation’s lowest illness and death rate while being the most open and free of government restrictions.


It’s great to be in a state that loves and respects freedom! Our fellow Floridians have enjoyed their freedoms since early into the COVID-19 pandemic, and most can’t really relate to what is to live under such oppression as Oregonians have been faced with since early 2020. We feel like refugees in a new land! Again, we’re grateful to be in Florida!


“For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”

Nelson Mandela (1918 - 2013)




Friday, December 4, 2020

Christmas Letter 2020

 

Downing Christmas Letter 2020

2020 was certainly a hot mess, wasn’t it? I could go down the list of all the drama in the world, but then it wouldn’t necessarily be about us, now would it? Here’s a little poem to get you warmed up just for the fun of it:

            Broken arm and injured head

            Camping when the skies turned red

            Riding before the forests burned

            A two-mile hike turned into a 10-mile concern

            2020 has been an interesting ride

But hold on tight cuz there’s more inside

 

“Let me embrace thee, sour adversity, for wise men say it is the wisest course.”

~ William Shakespeare, Henry VI, Part III, Act III, sc. 1 (1564 - 1616) 

 

Cold Vengeance

We started off 2020 with plenty of snow and playtime at Willamette Pass resort. What a beautiful start to the year, complete with Sophia’s first couple lessons on skis. Yes, skis. Cheryl and I are snowboarders, so the foreign nature of our daughter doing “pizzas” and “French fries” on the slopes was… well… weird, to be honest. I can’t teach her a single thing! I can call out “PIZZA!” and hope she slows down, but that’s the extent of it. She did pretty well, but her strong, independent leadership style (also known as parental defiance) resulted in some pretty awesome crashes. I’ll admit to all you readers that I did get a laugh at her final faceplant that happened without ANY warning. Even now I chuckle remembering her entire body smashing into the deep, fluffy snow. No, she didn’t get hurt. No, she didn’t even cry. She did, however, try blaming me, even though I was about 20 feet away. She was ticked and looking for vengeance as she pulled the clumps of snow off her goggles.

 Final Run

Over years of snowboarding, one tends to gain the wisdom through trial and tribulation, that the final run of the day can be the most dangerous. You’re body is tired, you’re mentally tired, but there’s a layer of confidence that tells you in a sweet, innocent voice to take one last run down the slope. Afterall, you’ve had a good day, why not one final run? Well, that’s what was on Cheryl’s mind as she took the last lift of the day on the bunny slope. It’s easy, and she’d been practicing on the slope successfully most of the day, so where’s the harm? She slid off the lift without a problem, finding her ideal spot to latch her one binding before making her way down the hill. She’ll tell you she was tired. She’ll tell you she should’ve sat down to secure her binding. She’ll tell you that when her board slipped, she fell backward, breaking her right forearm in two places, plus a longitudinal fracture. The medics were fantastic, and the trip to the hospital in Springfield was actually rather quick. Sophia got to be the nurse’s assistant, helping build the brace to help her mom heal.

 The Strength of a Woman

 Hold onto your seat for this one…

The rain pounded the hood of Cheryl’s Mini-Cooper as she pulled into the parking lot near her office in Salem. As she stepped quickly from the car, she stepped over a parking curb, only to realize too late that there was an 18” drop on the other side. She tumbled, and on her way down to the sidewalk below, she prepared for impact. What she didn’t realize at the moment was that her head was on target to hit the building’s brick wall first. Oh, I forgot to mention that she was scheduled to get her cast removed from her snowboard injury the very next day. This one incident turned into an ongoing ordeal that stole her perception, her speech, her driving, her profession, her quality of life… but it didn’t steal her strong spirit, her drive to love and help others, her willingness to overcome this awful disaster, and her ability to find the joy in spite of the challenges she faced. While she’s still working through many of these issues, her improvement is amazing, and she’ll tell you “I’m one day closer to healing.” One silver lining is that the onset of COVID set me up working from home without hardly any traveling.

 Room to Spare

We finally finished the master bathroom suite we started in the late summer of 2019! The sparkly walls, glorious glowing vanity with oversized bowls, a soaking tub big enough for me, and even an extra tall, extra deep walk-in shower that has amazing acoustics and room to spare. It’s rather quite romantic and is a beautiful end to a long remodel. It’s definitely something to see, but reservations are encouraged!

 Lung Buster

Our summer vacation brought us back to Sun Valley, Idaho, even amid the COVID restrictions and government overreach. We found a nearby hiking area with notes that suggested several trails were ideal for families, so we set off on an adventure through the rugged hills. The map said it was 1.6 miles. The map DIDN’T say it was 10 miles long with 1,000 ft elevation change! Low on water and exhausted, the daylight drained slowly away as we made our way along the trail. We came across two mountain bikers an hour or so apart, but otherwise there wasn’t a soul to be found. We did find rather large feces, though, which made me remember the posters warning of bear and moose in the area. Apparently, with bears you can play dead… with moose you basically are dead. It wasn’t the most pleasant thought to carry quietly as we navigated the unmarked splits in the trail and encourage Sophia to keep walking. At some point, we realized she wasn’t wearing socks, and as the little trooper wore out, I changed into her personal chariot to get her back to the car. After some research, I found that this particular trail gained the nickname “Lung Buster” by expert hikers and mountain bikers. I’ll note for the history books that was her first experience being so exhausted to the point of nausea.

 Trails and Tales

This summer kicked off the first of many camping adventures for me and Sophia. The first trip landed us at a state park I frequented growing up, and we marched all around the park’s trails and tried to catch crawdads, and to my amazement, she wanted to eat them! I’m down with that, but where she got the idea, I’ll never know. I also initiated a tradition I started with my boys when they were young that made traveling distances enjoyable, and campfires a treasure they still remember. I call it Storytime with Dad! I weave tales and adventures where Sophia gets to play as the main character, overcoming quests and challenges, solving puzzles and riddles, capturing the bad guys and rescuing people or creatures from villains of all shapes and sizes. Our trips alone are marvelously magical, and I often think I should record them for her later.

Another camping trip, as Sophia requested, was to the Oregon coast on Labor Day weekend. That was the day Oregon burst into flames, fanned by high winds that severed large tree branches across the campground we were staying at. I’m not sure how Sophia slept through the night when the wind ripped through the campground like a freight train, whipping our tent like a dry leaf, and breaking heavy tree branches throughout the forest. After checking our site several times throughout the night for potentially deadly tree branches, I finally got some sleep when the wind relaxed and we weren’t crushed in our tent.

I woke the next morning, after hardly any sleep, to find the entire sky a dark orange, tinged with red. Ash flitted through the air, and the park rangers said that there was only one road open, which was fortunately the one we needed. We made it back home on caffeine and sausage biscuits to get the sleep we desperately needed while our state burned.

Interestingly, I rode my Harley through the switch back road of the Old McKenzie forest, through the great lava fields to the town of Sisters for a fantastic lunch, and returned home through the forests of the Detroit Reservoir just two days before they burned down.


The Warden

Sophia, along with every kid in the nation, had a major setback when the government shutdown schools and sent kids home without much support. Sophia started second grade in the fall, but the government restrictions only allowed two hours in class each day. The best we can figure is that COVID can get you if you’re educated longer than that. Smart little bug! Second grade is tough because, as you can imagine, typing and software navigation isn’t really a strength yet. The two hours classroom instruction, followed by too many hours trying to figure out the online system was tough on Sophia, and unfortunately, Cheryl had to be more of a warden than a mom. We did find a solution in November that we’re very happy with, but we also know there are many families still trying to work through these difficult restrictions.

 Dare we peer into 2021? I think wisdom would tell us to avoid saying “it can’t get any worse”, because if 2020 taught us anything, is that it can get worse. That said, we are not without hope for a bright future, which may very well start in 2021! Let’s remember the strength shown by many in adversity, especially Cheryl as she’s stayed strong through a rather challenging year. Let’s remember to remember others; to reach out; to seek them out; to be intentional and stand up for one another.

 

“God creates men, but they choose each other.”

~ Niccolo Machiavelli (1469 - 1527) 

Tuesday, December 17, 2019

Christmas Letter 2019!

2019... Whew! What a ride! 




The whisper that went away

The last year of the decade started off much louder than we anticipated! Well, for Cheryl that is. You see, in 2018 she lost 90% of her voice for several months, but in January of this year it came back almost as fast as it left. After visiting various physicians and specialists who tested her for all sorts of things, including sliding a tiny camera down her nasal passage to inspect her vocal cords, they consistently came up with the same answer: “I dunno”. I must say, I enjoyed watching the 42” widescreen HD TV filled with her delicate little vocal cords vibrating and shaking as she tried really hard to talk with a camera jammed down her nose and throat. I enjoy having her call my name across a room instead of the ear-piercing, nerve wracking hiss she was forced to use when her voice was nothing more than a whisper… It went something like this: Psssssss! PSSSSSSSsssssss! Even writing it makes my eye twitch and my neck ache! 

Fender bender in February


One day we were simply sitting in a line of stopped traffic, patiently looking forward to the Costco snacks that awaited us around the corner. Sophia in the back of my little Kia Niro, Cheryl next to me looking pretty as always, when WACK! We were rear ended by a young man with expired insurance and a car that looked better suited for a wrecking yard than a daily commuter. Cheryl and Sophia found themselves in a chiropractor’s office regularly over the next month, and my little car spent some time in the shop, but otherwise everything was okay. Fortunately, my little car can really take a hit, and the young man’s insurance company reinstated him and paid for the repairs. We’re as good as new! Whew!

Three guys on tour

In March, my brother Mike met me and our dad in Washington D.C. for a grand adventure! We toured Arlington National Cemetery, the Nation’s Capitol building, the White House, Natural History Museum, Lincoln Memorial, the Navy Museum, the National Archives and a variety of pubs and restaurants. Here is my personal tip for anyone heading to DC: Push a Vietnam Veteran around in a wheelchair! The level of respect expressed from everyone in our Nation’s Capitol was impressive! 


Let me illustrate my point: We were granted a tour of the White House after I sent a request to Oregon Senator Merkely’s office well in advance. I pushed my dad along the self-guided tour route, through the halls of amazing history and beautiful architecture and artwork. We took our time and cherished every bit, until we found ourselves at the bottom of a grand marble stairway leading up to the next level. We shared some choice words to express our surprise and frustration, but soon came up with a plan of action: We were going to abandon his chair at the bottom, and I would help haul him to the top, one step at a time, over my shoulder, if necessary. 

I was resigned to the fact that I would be carrying my dad up the White House stairs, and he gave in to the rather humbling position to be hauled by his son. Before we acted on our plan, a very tall secret service agent got our attention and waved us over to the roped-off, partitioned hallway beside the stairs that clearly was not for the average citizen. He looked carefully around, making sure other average citizens were not going to witness the unexpected turn that pulled us off the tour route. We swiftly moved beyond the barriers, finding ourselves looking down a large hallway with tall doors and glossy floors. Gorgeous, oversized chandeliers brought the various statues, desks, chairs, flower arrangements, and heavily armed guards spaced at 25 feet increments alternating positions down the wide hall to light. 


The secret service agent directed us through a small door immediately to our right, into a skinny hallway filled with pastry trays and carts. We walked by a glass-enclosed kitchen where several older asian men were nimbly preparing lunch for the President and his guest: the Irish Prime Minister! My dad’s request to take a picture was promptly declined by our guide, but it didn’t hurt to ask.

We squeezed into a tiny service elevator with the agent and shared pleasant conversation as the old elevator took its time getting to the upper level. After expressing our appreciation for his help and service to our country, we turned from a rather nice experience directly into the intense, foreboding gaze of a small framed female secret service agent who made our skin crawl. I could not push my dad past this lady fast enough, yet I had to fight the urge to sprint because I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t hesitate to tackle us both and we’d end up in some basement darkroom facing her fierce interrogation. 

I could imagine her drilling us: “Why did you run!” 
“Cuz you’re scary!” we’d cry out. 
Glad I kept my cool. 

Adventures by the bay in May


Cheryl’s amazing work with Aflac brought the gift of a trip to Costa Rica in May! Thanks to my airline mile balance, we were able to get Sophia and our dearest friend Vickie (aka Grandma Vickie) to meet us down there and share in the adventure! We swam a lot, played with fruit-eating little monkeys with attitude, and chased their lizard population around the resort. 

Sophia enjoyed picking up the large palm leaves, until she found herself getting chased by one of the largest, oldest lizards around. The beast spotted the palm leaf she carried and decided that he needed it more than she did… so it sprinted toward her… and she screamed and started running…. I started yelling to drop the leaf… and she kept screaming… and it kept chasing… until she finally dropped the leaf and escaped. 


Happy Harley Day to Me!

Just before the glorious “Week of John”, which is both Father’s Day and my birthday, I stopped into a Yamaha dealership outside of Portland looking for a new do-rag to wear under my helmet. At the time, I had a 2008 Yamaha touring motorcycle that fit my needs, but not my wants. I asked the Yamaha sales rep about newer Yamaha touring bikes, and to my surprise, he said they’re not doing street bikes anymore… that I should go down the street to the Harley Davidson dealer, which I did immediately. They didn’t have do-rags I liked, either. 

After walking around the Harley dealer, finding a do-rag that I liked, I started looking at their used models to see what the great interest is in Harley Davidson motorcycles, other than the branding. Turns out, the Harleys had some pretty sweet features, so of course I had to ride one… just to see.

A little while later, I sent Cheryl a text that started with “Soooo…. I accidentally stopped into a Harley dealer…”

The next day, the family spent the morning at the dealership with me while I negotiated the sale of my Yamaha and the purchase of a 2014 Ultra Limited. Cheryl and I rode away in style while William drove Sophia in the Mini back to Salem. It’s got so many features and rides better than any of the Yamahas in my past, it’s a shame I waited so long to get one! When our anniversary came around in August, Cheryl and I rode through the beautiful Oregon wine country with the surround sound speakers blasting a mix of music that turned this awesome machine into our own person karaoke club! We rock! 




A Sailor’s Delight

26 years ago, I left my US Navy active duty station in San Diego. This year, I returned to San Diego for a conference right across the bay from the airbase where I served so long ago. To get my first look across the bay, I walked along the boardwalk next to the conference center, trying to align my distant memories with the base across the bay. To my surprise, the very airplane I spent three years working in, on and around made a low, slow pass right in front of me! The entire week-long conference never brought the airplane back into view, so I’m gonna say they did it just for me! Another flashback to my service days, was the USS Midway aircraft carrier that was turned into a museum. I also took the liberty of going across the bay on a ferry to explore the famous Hotel Del Coronado and to wade into the surf under a brilliant, full moon. Again, I’m gonna say all this was just for me! I couldn’t ask for a better trip down memory lane!


Glitter and glamour and sweat, Oh My!

Every year, we do something significant to the house. Yes, this is the house we bought in 2015 that wasn’t supposed to be a fixer-upper. Well, this year we decided to remodel the master bathroom suite. The carpeted floor and dated subway tiles were stark reminders that the rest of the house was updated… but our bathroom was still vintage 1996. 



Cheryl came up with a fantastic design, and we negotiated the scope, cost and schedule with each other, because let’s face it, we were going to save upwards of $60-$70k if we did the work ourselves. Yes, Cheryl got quotes from several contractors, and the exorbitant costs were due to exorbitant designs she created.



Parading through the streets

In November, we set our eyes on the largest Veteran’s Day parade west of the Mississippi… in the little city of Albany, Oregon. I rode my Harley down to the staging area to hang out with a couple hundred other bikers from all walks of life. Cheryl and Sophia drove separately, and found me amongst the leather and denim clad bikers. Sophia in her pink denim camouflage jacket with a skirt splashed with every color in the rainbow stood out in the best contrast to everyone around. While we waited for the parade to begin, she sported my Navy ball cap and admired the different motorcycles around. When it came time to move out, Cheryl jumped on the back, Sophia in the middle, launching candy to the waiting parade watchers through the streets of Albany. The roaring engines kicked off the parade, and we were finished in a relatively short time. The best quote from Sophia as she looked thoughtfully out among the many bikes: “Riding through the streets on a Harley… the best day ever.”

My closet valet 

Those closest to me know that I’m always intrigued by entrepreneurial opportunities in the world around me, and I’ve even dabbled in developing several business plans that ultimately were filed away. Filed away, until recently, that is. You see, I have a friend that expressed concerns about downsizing to a smaller residence while adding a significant other into the mix as well. This sparked my interest and I started finding that there’s an opportunity in front of me! So, I developed several business models, narrowed down my approach, explored and probed prospective markets and current competition, forecasted potential revenue models, and then kicked off an exciting new adventure called My Closet Valet, a personal wardrobe storage and accessory management company. That’s right! Check this out: www.myclosetvalet.com 

Final thought

What a year to come! Exciting and adventurous!!! I hope you’re looking forward to 2020 as much as I am!